“People are either shocked that someone with a big dick is a bottom or they are determined to turn me into a full-on top, to which I tell them me topping has never not lead to a messy situation. “Being someone who generally as a bottom-though my profile says ‘vers bottom’-because I dabble-it has yielded some interesting responses,” he says. As a versatile man, he rarely gets to experience the pleasures of bottoming because he’s often told the bigger guy tops.Įthan, 26, who also measures 8 inches, often finds himself in the same position-literally. James, 35, who measures 8 inches, tells me that his generous package sways most of his partners to bottom. “That’s a hard place to be when you love or care about your partner, and entering him hurts him.” “If a partner isn’t physically comfortable with a larger penis, it can feel like a deterrent as it causes physical pain,” sex and relationship therapist Janet Zinn explains to me in a phone interview. The Journal of Sexual Medicine has verified the average penis measures at roughly 5.6 inches technically, that means anything larger is considered “big.” While research tells us that “ideal” penis sizes are much larger, less than 3% of the world’s population measures over 8 inches.īut while a big dick may be praised and envied, the reality is it can often be a detriment, especially for gay men who engage in anal sex.